Sustainable Success Nudge from Your Future Self

💬 “What you tolerate reveals where you’ve given your power away.”

And how you respond reveals the level of consciousness you’re choosing from.

Hi Melinda,

Let’s take the topic of “toleration” one layer deeper.

When I first learned the phrase, “You get what you tolerate,” it hit me hard.

At the time, I didn’t yet have language for the 4 Levels of Consciousness. But looking back now, I can clearly see what was happening.

As a perfectionist, there were times I tolerated things because I had dropped into To Me.

“I can’t do anything about that because _________” {fill in the blank}.

That’s victim energy. That’s where power drains. That’s where possibility gets small.

And honestly? That’s why part of me hated that quote.

Because if I was tolerating something and doing nothing about it, well then I had to face where I was playing small.

But another part of me loved it (hello control freak).

Because the moment I asked, “What am I tolerating? And am I okay with that?”
I could move out of To Me and into By Me.

I could make a decision. Take action. Change something.

That question gave me my power back.

And over time, I learned something even more useful:

Not every toleration has to be fixed immediately.

Sometimes you’re not ready. Sometimes you don’t yet have the resources. Sometimes, for now, it truly is okay.

But when you can consciously say, “I see this. I’m tolerating it. And for now, I’m okay with that,” you’re no longer in victim mode.

You’re in choice.

And now, with the lens of the 4 Levels of Consciousness, I’d take it one step further:

Before dealing with the toleration, choose your state first.

Create a Through Me container. Then respond.

Because tolerations tend to pull us into a tug-of-war between To Me victim energy and By Me achiever energy.

But sustainable success asks for something more mature:

Presence first. Then choice.

So this week, don’t just ask:
What am I tolerating?

Also ask:
What level of consciousness am I in when I relate to it?

That awareness alone can change everything.

With clarity,
Melinda